Maintaining a conversation with a girl.
I will not be original when I say that regardless of the goals of your acquaintance – from a quick affair to creating a family with five children, a dacha in the suburbs and an unbalanced labrador – you need to talk to a girl. There are few ways to spend time together that would not require communication (to get to the most pleasant of them, you, again, will have to work a little on communication!). So let’s outline the main topics for maintaining a conversation with a girl!
If a girl does not drive a car and does not express a special desire to own such a vehicle, do not load her with details such as the engine of your iron horse. But you can talk about the car of your dreams or remember which car was lit up in the last Bond film.
Funny bad habits.
Don’t talk about your habit of smoking a pack of cigarettes a day, drinking two liters of beer at lunch, or biting your nails. Think of something nicer that brings a smile to your face. About the habit of drawing funny faces on paper during a phone conversation, for example.
How to earn them better and how to spend them more pleasantly. People from different countries have an attitude to money. The main thing when discussing this topic is not to give the impression of a miser or a spender.
Sisters and brothers, nephews, funny toddlers walking nearby and mothers passing by with strollers. Children are quite a nice and pleasant topic, if you do not abuse it. For example, you should not immediately inform about your desire to have triplets and share pre-selected names, as well as it is not recommended to talk about your categorical rejection of children.
You can start with the simplest – finding out whether she is a cat person or a dog lover, prefers colorful fish in the aquarium or keeps a family of guinea pigs at home. Pet owners are happy to talk about their pets, show their photos, and listen to the story about your iguana or talking parrot with the same pleasure.
Even if a girl lives in one place all her adult life, with a little preliminary preparation, you can easily impress her with your knowledge of local attractions, tell a funny story about an old house or about what significant personalities lived on this street.
“Without men, the planet would be populated by cheerful and fat women.” What I mean is that even when we are gloomily picking at a spring salad or resolutely refusing a second piece of cake for dessert (because we suddenly decided that it was not the dress that was worn out, but we were a little fat), we still respect and warmly treat the topic of food. You can tell us about your favorite grandmother’s pies or about the most exotic dish that you have tried recently. Or share the secret of the location of the cafe where they brew the best coffee in the city. With such a conversation, your invitation to dinner or a joint coffee party will be logical and, most likely, will be gladly accepted.
If you did not meet in the queue for a shawarma or a nutritious cheeseburger, you can speculate on the topic of a healthy lifestyle-the benefit of information on this topic is full in all media sources, so any Internet user can be considered an expert in matters of nutrition and proper habits.
Another win-win topic of conversation. Favorite movies, directors, discussion of the latest movie events. And if you also manage to flash a phrase from her favorite movie-a trip to the cinema is provided for you!
Be original-admit that you read more than just the news when you open your email. Tell us about your favorite book and promise to give it to read. Ask her what she reads and which writer she likes the most. Or maybe there was a recent film adaptation of her favorite book? An excuse to watch it together.
Compliments on her appearance and the selection of clothes and accessories will never be superfluous. But here, the main thing is not to overdo it. Personally, I am wary of men who are better versed in fashion trends than I am and know more than one designer.
How a girl spends the weekend, her favorite places to spend a long weekend and your recommendations on how to diversify a short vacation. Listen carefully and in no case criticize, even if she does not get up from the sofa in front of the TV for two days. It is better to offer something more interesting and, most importantly, joint.
Talk about common topics – what she values in her partner, what kind of relationship she aspires to, and which couples are an example for her. You should not go into the details of an unpleasant breakup with your ex-girlfriend, and you should not ask about the volume of the ex-boyfriend’s chest either.
Favorite holiday, what gifts he likes to receive, whether he likes to give gifts and how he usually chooses them, the most memorable celebration in recent times. And much,much more. This is truly a fun and inexhaustible topic of conversation.
Tell a funny story that happened to you or your friends during your vacation. Ask her where she prefers to relax and what kind of vacation she likes best. Share useful information about the country where she is going to go or offer your services as a guide to the places where she would like to visit.
Who doesn’t have a boss who makes you want to discuss it outside of work? And the stories from the last corporate party? Or a couple of employee gossips? Our work unites us and gives us a lot of common topics for conversation, even if the areas of your activity do not overlap.
Be careful not to hurt the feelings of a deeply religious person or to annoy the frenzied fanatic of some dubious sect. No matter how slippery this topic is, it is better to find out immediately who you are dealing with. But carefully and being able to quickly retreat in case of danger.
The topic of sex is like a minefield, going through which you can attract attention and intrigue with skillfully selected stories and relevant jokes, or once and for all be undermined by immediately reporting in great detail about your sexual preferences using diagrams, pictures and visual examples.
Favorite sport or the latest Olympic Games. What is better-to go to a belly dance or should you seriously do yoga? When is the best time to run-in the morning or in the evening. There are many themes – choose any one.
Invite the girl to teach her how to rollerblade, play curling, or invite her to see her collection, as it was with the classics – lute music of the 16th century. Do not forget to learn about her hobbies-listen carefully, without interrupting, with an interested person and ask clarifying questions, no matter what oddities she is not fond of!