Flirting and flirting.
Sometimes it is mistakenly believed that flirting is a light version of flirting, but, in fact, there is a significant difference between them, and one does not follow from the other.
Flirting is a form of fun spending time, when there is no supposed rapprochement, but there is an altruistic desire just to please the other person and, thereby, to have fun yourself. Here the principle of “giving, we get more” applies.
There is always an element of sincere selflessness in flirting: a man has enough mental strength not only for his girlfriend, but also for the one with whom he flirts; he shares these forces with another person at his own will. When a man amuses the interlocutor, he gets the greatest buzz from the fact that he feels her joyful mood, a positive response.
The only thing that in some sense unites flirting with flirting is a certain principle that underlies them, although, again, the result in both cases is absolutely different. The fact is that a man and a woman are of the opposite sex. The flirting man uses this difference of the sexes, the peculiarities of communication with a woman, for example, the fact that she is many times more emotional, and her emotions are richer.
When I was in my second year at university, I had a girlfriend, but I was flirting with a classmate. The Faculty of Philosophy of Moscow State University, a seminar, everyone is sitting smart and serious, discussing the philosophy of some Plotinus, and we sit on the last desk, I treat her to tangerines, and we eat them right on the pair, just like little ones. After Uni, I got married and went to serve in the Church, and she graduated from the Sorbonne.
But there is a fundamental point here. It is necessary to flirt with a woman in such a way that she constantly feels that there will be no continuation. Another thing is that she may still be hoping in her heart of hearts. You can not in any case give a woman an empty hope that there will be a rapprochement, that it is possible!
My classmate knew perfectly well that my heart was busy, and she understood why I was flirting with her. It’s just fun, and we really had fun.
Flirting, in contrast to flirting, involves further rapprochement. Flirting is a whole element. In flirting, there is a certain (dizzying:) the stream which carries one to the other. There is both sympathy and an unconscious desire to possess the woman you like. There’s nothing you can do about it, in a sense, you lose control of yourself.
In general, in order to flirt, a man does not need to be very developed. Because flirting is often a simple courtship: a man says compliments, makes the chosen one understand that he likes her company, that he would love to spend even more time with her.
Flirting is a controlled process. When flirting, a man learns to understand a woman, improves some of his qualities, which is almost absent in flirting. The opposite is also true: flirting develops a man. Flirting is such a refined, sophisticated fun.
It should be noted that we are talking about male flirting. In a woman, flirting as such does not exist at all. Only by flirting can a woman play with a man. After all, she will attract attention, and if a man is free and he likes her, he will inevitably get carried away.
The difference between flirting and flirting concerns primarily the man, since he is the leader of the relationship. The woman sets the framework, and the man always leads.